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Are you afraid of or unable to create intimacy or closeness with your intimate partner? Do you find that sometimes you create emotional, communicative, or even physical distance from that special someone in your life, even when, deep down, you really don't want to? If so, you share the relationship style psychologists refer to as the distancer. Distancers are often afraid of being engulfed or controlled by their partners. They fear rejection, vulnerability, and dependence. Sadly, they also tend to have short and unhappy relationships.

If you want to stop running from love in your life, this book offers a simple, step-by-step approach you can use to move beyond your fear of intimacy and start building strong and lasting relationships. The exercises and self-evaluations in the book will help you become aware of how you operate in romantic relationships. You'll review and reassess your relationship patterns, deciding what changes you want to make in future relationships. Then you'll commit to actions that can make it happen.

Dusty Miller's gentle, wise approach to women and men who distance from love offers a unique guide to finding real connection. This breakthough approach will change the lives of men and women who struggle with the challenges of intimacy.
--Terrence Real, director of the Relational Life Institute in Newton, MA, and author of the national best-sellers I Don't Want to Talk About It and How Can I Get Through to You?, as well as the recently published New Rules of Marriage.
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Kantor focuses on a misunderstood but common condition that brings severe and pervasive anxiety about social contacts and relationships Fear of intimacy and commitment keeps avoidants from forming close, meaningful relationships. Types of avoidants can include confirmed bachelors, "femme fatales," and people who form what appear to be solid relationships only to tire of them and leave with little warning, often devastating their partners/victims. Kantor takes us through the history of this disorder, and into clinical treatment rooms, to see and hear how avoidants think, feel, and recover. He offers psychotherapists a specific method for helping avoidants overcome their fear of closeness and commitments, and offers a guide for avoidants themselves to use for developing lasting, intimate, anxiety-free relationships. The avoidance reduction techniques presented in this book recognize that avoidants not only fear criticism and humiliation, but also fear being flooded by their feelings and being depleted if they express them. Acceptance is feared as much as rejection, because avoidants fear compromising their identity and losing personal freedom. Kantor describes the different therapeutic emphasis required for the four types of avoidants, including those who are withdrawn due to shyness and social phobia, such as people who intensely fear public speaking; those who relate easily, widely, and well, but cannot sustain relationships due to fear of closeness; those whose restlessness causes them to leave steady relationships, often without warning; and those who grow dependent on--and merge with--a single lover or family member and avoid relating to anyone else..
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In this course, we shall be studying how the "Church," the Body of Messiah, went from a Torah zealous group of believers (Acts 21:20) to an anti-Torah group of believers We shall also be examining the spirit behind this change..
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While it is not surprising that in today's world avoidance (or distancing) has become so widespread that people assign greater importance to their possessions than their relationships, what is surprising is the extent to which avoidance has been overlooked, misunderstood, and/or downplayed. This book provides an in-depth look at avoidance and Avoidant Personality disorder (APD). The author studies the avoidant in the real world and habitat and evolves a dedicated, eclectic, action-oriented therapeutic approach. Kantor believes it is important to move away from individual components of avoidance, such as fear of rejection or low self-esteem, and to study and treat the avoidant "gestalt" for which the proper treatment is avoidance reduction. Components of the psychoanalytic, cognitive behavioral, interpersonal, and supportive approaches that involve "doing" or action, are emphasized..
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In this trenchant, concise analysis, Schmookler attacks what many consider to be the great shibboleth of our culture - the "free marketplace " Fool's Gold reveals how a system that regards nothing as sacred, everything as mere commodity, creates illusions and devalues everything from art to the planet's resources. The market, Schmookler argues, leads people onto false paths, paths that traditional religions have called "sin" and "idolatry. What religions have taught people to avoid - excessive attachment to possessions, enslavement to our whims and desires - the market teaches us to pursue, while it surrounds us with a sterile world. From early in this century, Schmookler points out, advertisers have used imagery to make their commodities seem more like holy icons than the mere products of consumerism that they are. A system that turns everything into a commodity erodes the ability of human beings to hold onto what is sacred within and among themselves. Nature is displaced by a superficial culture and we become alienated from the source of our being; the phony displaces the real. This results in a distancing of human consciousness from the wellspring of meaning, of vision, of contact with the sacred. In Schmookler's vision, we are now faced with the task of reclaiming the sacred, a reclamation that will require both systematic and spiritual transformations. We need to remember that we are creatures, not the Creator, and rid ourselves of the illusion that what we can control and regiment, within ourselves as well as in the world, is sufficient for our sustenance. There are visions available to us of a reality that transcends us. The ways to that reality lie within us, in one another, in other cultures, and in the living systems of the Earth..
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This digital document is an article from Nursing Forum, published by Nursecom, Inc. on April 1, 1999. The length of the article is 4383 words. The page length shown above is based on a typical 300-word page. The article is delivered in HTML format and is available in your Amazon.com Digital Locker immediately after purchase. You can view it with any web browser.

From the supplier: The article reprints a Nursing Forum article originally published in 1979. The 1979 article presents a descriptive view of nursing, concentrating on what nurses actually do in their practice, and allows the opportunity for professionals to measure how nursing has and has not changed between 1979 and 1999.

Citation Details
Title: Avoidance and Distancing: A Descriptive View of Nursing.
Author: Jacquelyn H. Flaskerud
Publication:Nursing Forum (Refereed)
Date: April 1, 1999
Publisher: Nursecom, Inc.
Volume: 34 Issue: 2 Page: 29

Distributed by Thomson Gale.
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